– Song of Solomon 2:15
- UNFORGIVENESS AND BITTERNESS:
Don’t give room to bitterness and unforgiveness. Learn to instantly forgive each other. Unforgiveness is one major crack in the wall of many families today. It causes couples to hold on to issues, offences, misunderstandings and various hurts of the past, and before long there is a rift so wide that tears the family apart. Bitterness is like cancer that eats up the marriage. Many marriages have been eaten up and torn apart by unforgiveness and bitterness. [Hebrews 12:15]
The Lord admonishes husbands and his wives to submit to each other. It is pride that makes a woman despise her husband, perhaps because she is better educated or paid. Pride would make a husband refuse the godly advice of a virtuous and god-fearing wife. Beware of pride; it is a major hindrance to a glorious home. [Ephesians 5:21; Proverbs 16:18]
Many husbands and wives do not appreciate the little kind acts of their partners. They never say, “Thank you.” Though made up of just two words, saying “Thank You” can bring a lot of joy and peace to the home.
Some husbands have stopped providing for the home because their wives never appreciate their efforts. No matter how much they spend, it is never enough. At the other end are some husbands who find it difficult to appreciate their wives’ inputs at home. Beware of the danger of ingratitude, be thankful always. [Colossians 3:15; 1 Thessalonians 5:18]
- NO COMMUNICATION:
A breakdown of communication between couples places the relationship on a dangerous terrain, making room for misunderstandings and conflicts. There are various forms of communication: Verbal and non-verbal. Most times non-verbal forms of communication are, even, more powerful; the lovely smiles, tender touches, heart-felt embraces and sexual intimacy could curb and contain a lot of troubles. Communication is the glue of a successful relationship and must be diligently preserved. [1 Timothy 6:18; Hebrews 13:16]
- FINANCIAL INDISCIPLINE:
Couples ought to restrain themselves from reckless spending and borrowing as these bad habits bring a financial strain on the family. Unmanaged financial strain has wrecked a host of marriages; but this could be avoided. The husband and wife should endeavour to be as transparent as possible with their finances. [Proverbs 21:17; Proverbs 22:7; Hebrews 13:5]
- UNFAITHFULNESS / INFIDELITY:
The bond of the marital union is kept with the seal of faithfulness. Infidelity destroyed the very fibre of the relationship. Breaking the marital vow is a very grievous offence that should not be taken lightly, as God is very particular about faithfulness in a marital union. Beware of infidelity, it doesn’t just happen; it creeps into one’s life slowly. Most times, individuals are unawares of its presence. Therefore, be vigilant and watchful. [Malachi 2:14, 15; Hebrews 13:4]
Beware of these little foxes! Leaving them to go free range would endanger your marriage and ruin a once wonderful family.